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Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit. Rather, in humility value others above yourselves Philippians 2:3

A husband and wife got into a petty argument. As was their nature, neither of them would admit the possibility that they might be in error. The wife finally said, "Look. I'll tell you what. I'll admit I was wrong if you’ll admit I was right." The husband said, "Fine." She took a deep breath, looked him in the eye and said, "I was wrong.” He grinned and replied, "You're right."

We’ve all been there — those little disagreements that somehow feel much bigger than they ought to. Maybe it’s about what to have for dinner, which way to fold the laundry, or who left the lights on. At the time, it feels important to prove our point, but in the grand scheme of things, is being “right” really the goal?

This story illustrates something many of us struggle with -- admitting when we’re wrong. Even when we do, there’s a part of us that still wants to “win” in some way. But Scripture calls us to something greater — humility. Philippians 2:3 reminds us to value others above ourselves, putting love before pride.

Jesus himself is the ultimate example of this kind of humility. Though he had every right to claim superiority, he chose to serve rather than be served. If Jesus, the Son of God, could lay aside his rights for the sake of love, surely we can, too. When we are willing to listen, admit fault, or let go of our need to "win," we reflect the heart of Christ.

So, the next time you find yourself in a disagreement, pause and ask yourself: What matters more — being right or being Christlike? Is proving my point more important than preserving peace? Sometimes the greatest victory isn’t found in winning the argument but in choosing to show grace.

- alan smith

Lord, help me to walk in humility, seeking peace rather than always being “right.” Give me a heart that values others above myself, and reflects your grace in every conversation. In Jesus’ name, amen.