...character

There's no doubt that our character has a profound effect on our future. What we must remember, however, is not merely how powerful character is in influencing our destiny, but how powerful we are in shaping our character and, therefore, our destiny. Character may determine our fate, but character is not determined by fate.

It's a common mistake to think character is fully formed and fixed early in life. It calls to mind old maxims like "A leopard can't change its spots" and "You can't teach an old dog new tricks." This perspective that our character is etched in stone is supported by a great deal of modern psychology emphasizing self-acceptance. 

As Popeye says, "I yam what I yam." The hidden message is: Don't expect me to be more, better, or different.

Ultimately, these views of humanity undervalue the lifelong potential for growth that comes with the power of reflection and choice. How depressing it would be to believe that we can't choose to be better—more honest, more respectful, more responsible, more caring. None of us should give up the personal quest to improve our character. Not because we're bad—we don't have to be sick to get better—but because we're not as good as we could be.

There are so many things in life we can't control: whether we're beautiful or smart, whether we have good parents or bad, whether we grow up with affirmation or negation. It's uplifting to remember that nothing but moral willpower is needed to make us better.

No, it isn't easy. 

But if we strive to become more aware of the habits of heart and mind that drive our conduct, 

we can begin to place new emphasis on our higher values so we become what we want our children to think we are.

-character counts